Waiting on the Lord

My heart says to You, Your face (Your presence), Lord, will I seek, inquire for, and require Psalm 27:8


"I come unto thee in a thick cloud, that the people may hear when I speak with thee, and believe thee for ever. "

Isa 40:31 

Love is a choice


Letting go of unhealthy relationships, free to make new choices...free to choose love...

# Do you feel caught in a trap of constantly trying to please everyone, and yet you still feel guilty at the end of the day?

# Do you feel as if you and your spouse are in a never-ending battle for control and have no idea who is winning and who is losing?

# Do you feel as if something is missing in your life?

# Do your life keep on going through cycles of destruction and lost of resources and relationships?

# are you still living the patterns of behavior you did when you were a child?

Do you struggle with capacity to love and receive love from self, others and God? 

Some people have no idea what issues or thoughts make them so desperate. Others have identified their pain, but need to learn to get through it. Though people may share common unhealthy behaviors and feelings of hopelessness, each person has been through a set of unique experiences that have led to these problems and patterns of behavior.

Do you identify with some of the following co-dependent behaviors?

  • I can’t stand to be alone

  • I am a perfectionist

  • I am driven by the approval of others

  • I feel desperate when I cannot gain the approval of others

  • I find myself making decisions based on how they will affect other people and rarely consider myself

  • Many times I feel obsessed for total order in my life

  • I put my work first, above anything else

  • I find myself adjusting to my spouse’s needs rather than communicating my own feelings

  • I do not experience anger

  • I overeat often

  • I am constantly wondering what other people think of me

  • I cover up my feelings so others won’t be able to see what I really think

  • I am constantly trying to figure out how to stay ahead in my relationships

  • I cover up my feelings of self doubt with drugs or alcohol use

  • I cannot say no when I am asked to serve on a committee or do a favor

  • When I begin to feel sad or angry I go shopping, work harder or eat

  • I tell myself it shouldn’t hurt so much when others let me down

  • I need to control those close to me

  • I need everyone to be happy with me so that I can feel good about myself


If these scenarios sound familiar, then you may be co-dependent. Co-dependents rely on alcohol or drugs, money, work, food, or sexuality to make them happy – or they love someone who does!

The program helps:

- You to step back and examine your life and then effectively deal with the co-dependency.

- It will help you to break the cycle of co-dependency and be free to make new choices... free to choose love!


The “Love is a Choice” Intensive retreat runs over 14 days and is based on Biblical recovery principles. Through questions, self-tests, exercises and journal keeping it provides proven interactive techniques that will help you find healing from the pain that created your codependency. Codependency or enslavement to people, patterns of behavior and  addictive agents are anchored by lies and deceits that keeps us in bondage to our past.

While we work on the restoration of the soul and flesh, we run a process of deeper spiritual growth parallel with the Love is a choice process.  This consists of spiritual disciplines and exercises to train and activate the spirit.  You are taught how activate the gateways of your body, soul and spirit to walk in a relationship with God and pursue your God-given responsibilities and authority for your life.  


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