About the Course
Love is a choice
Letting go of unhealthy relationships, free to make new choices...free to choose love...
# Do you feel caught in a trap of constantly trying to please everyone, and yet you still feel guilty at the end of the day?
# Do you feel as if you and your spouse are in a never-ending battle for control and have no idea who is winning and who is losing?
# Do you feel as if something is missing in your life?
# Do your life keep on going through cycles of destruction and lost of resources and relationships?
# are you still living the patterns of behavior you did when you were a child?
Do you struggle with capacity to love and receive love from self, others and God?
Some people have no idea what issues or thoughts make them so desperate. Others have identified their pain, but need to learn to get through it. Though people may share common unhealthy behaviors and feelings of hopelessness, each person has been through a set of unique experiences that have led to these problems and patterns of behavior.
Do you identify with some of the following co-dependent behaviors?
I can’t stand to be alone
I am a perfectionist
I am driven by the approval of others
I feel desperate when I cannot gain the approval of others
I find myself making decisions based on how they will affect other people and rarely consider myself
Many times I feel obsessed for total order in my life
I put my work first, above anything else
I find myself adjusting to my spouse’s needs rather than communicating my own feelings
I do not experience anger
I overeat often
I am constantly wondering what other people think of me
I cover up my feelings so others won’t be able to see what I really think
I am constantly trying to figure out how to stay ahead in my relationships
I cover up my feelings of self doubt with drugs or alcohol use
I cannot say no when I am asked to serve on a committee or do a favor
When I begin to feel sad or angry I go shopping, work harder or eat
I tell myself it shouldn’t hurt so much when others let me down
I need to control those close to me
I need everyone to be happy with me so that I can feel good about myself
If these scenarios sound familiar, then you may be co-dependent. Co-dependents rely on alcohol or drugs, money, work, food, or sexuality to make them happy – or they love someone who does!
The program helps:
- You to step back and examine your life and then effectively deal with the co-dependency.
- It will help you to break the cycle of co-dependency and be free to make new choices... free to choose love!
The “Love is a Choice” Intensive retreat runs over 10 days and is based on Biblical recovery principles. Through questions, self-tests, exercises and journal keeping it provides proven interactive techniques that will help you find healing from the pain that created your codependency. Codependency or enslavement to people, patterns of behavior and addictive agents are anchored by lies and deceits that keeps us in bondage to our past.
While we work on the restoration of the soul and flesh, we run a process of deeper spiritual growth parallel with the Love is a choice process. This consists of spiritual disciplines and exercises to train and activate the spirit. You are taught how activate the gateways of your body, soul and spirit to walk in a relationship with God and pursue your God-given responsibilities and authority for your life.
Your Instructors
Jacques Truter
Jacques Truter is a coach whose passion is to help make the transition from a sense of unworthiness to full acceptance and knowledge of who you were created to be.
After years of growing up in a culture of a religion of guilt and shame, Jacques had a revelation that changed his point of view and the way he saw life and eternity, from an eternal Viewpoint.
He coaches through eternal questions of:
Who am I?
How do I deal with constant feelings of guilt and unworthiness?
How do I walk out of my rejection into a sense of belonging?
How do I reparent your life, to find rest in your roles and responsibilities in life?
Jacques holds degrees in Human Resources Management and Financial Risk Management. After careers in Financial and Retail Industries, he consulted in Change management and Sales Process Management.
He and his wife, Hanneke, left their business careers in 2000 and establish Beulah Christian Retreat, as a place of rest and spiritual renewal. They have been married for 32 years and together they have three children.
Together with his wife, they run healing and restoration seminars and provide a place to rest and refocus, Beulah Christian Retreat, in the mountains near Wellington, South Africa. He can be contacted at admin@spiralviewpoint.com
Hanneke Truter
Hanneke Truter is a coach with a heart for women who needs or wants to deal with a sense of unworthiness. Hanneke believes all women can live a life with full acceptance and knowledge of self; with the capacity to give and receive love.
Hanneke experienced a spiritual awakening in 1998 and have since then been coaching and facilitating growth, focusing on moving out of guilt and shame to one’s identity.
“I have discovered who I were created to be. I am at peace with myself and can appreciate and enjoy my uniqueness.”
Hanneke holds a degree in Bachelor of Science, in the Natural Sciences with Statistics and Psychology as majors. She completed her Honours Degree in Statistics in 1988. Hanneke received her MSc in Statistics while working at the Institute of Biostatistics at the Medical Research Council.
Her employment history includes the position of Statistician at Framework Research (Marketing Research), Lecturer in Statistics at UWC and Varsity College, Senior Scientist at CERSA (MRC) and Risk Analyst with Woolworths Financial Services. Since 2000, Hanneke ministered at Beulah Retreat as Wellness and Spiritual Care counsellor.
Her expertise includes Psychological, Clinical, Biostatistical and Epidemiological Research, and she worked several years with Women’s Health Forums. While in the research environment, Hanneke authored and co-authored several publications and presented papers at SUGISA, SASSA and AHSC & ESSA conferences. She has experience in the financial fields as Risk Analyst.
Hanneke is currently a member of SIGNOPRO, advancing growth, trust and ethical conduct in the services and skilled helping industries.